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An Appointment with Pleasure
Every day I set an alarm at 2:30pm. I stop whatever I’m doing and give myself 5 minutes of being, of breathing, of experiencing the treasure of living in a body that’s alive with sensation. I give myself a reminder to take a moment each day for the pure pleasure of living. A reminder to have compassion for my body’s needs, wishes, and dreams. A reminder that I can enjoy pleasure without strings attached. Pleasure without bondage or walls or electrified fences. Pleasure outside of the box society tries to shove me into. I set aside 5 minutes of every day to remind myself that I am more than what…
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How to Give a Lapdance without Beheading Your Partner PT2
Lapdancing, it’s the mysterious private show that happens [booming announcer voice] BEHIND THE WALL in the VIP strip club. It’s also one of my absolute favorite types of exotic dance. I’m going to share my secret weapons with you that can help you give a tantalizing, mesmerizing, sensual lapdance. But first, I want to demystify a few things. Because giving a great lapdance isn’t as much about a following a set of rules as it is about making the choices that turn you and your partner on. Lapdancing does not require a special chair Lazyboy or a recliner; arms or no arms; chair, couch, or bed. It really doesn’t matter…
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Pole Dancers DO IT Longer
How long can you DO IT? How long can you GO AT IT before your luscious energy starts to wane? How long before you cry out for breath or have to stop and rest? How long does it take before your arms and legs start to shake from exertion? Really? I’m talking about GOING AT IT without resting, without stopping and starting again. Just one long continuous SENSUAL EXPERIENCE? 10 minutes? 20 minutes? An hour? (WOW!) In order to have a truly amazing experience every time, I think it’s essential to really develop your stamina. In fact, I think stamina is just as important as your technique and your transitions.…
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If You Touch my Yoohoo, I’ll Kick Your Cookie
Quiver, mantrap, rosebud, jewel, cake, snatch, artichoke, venus mound, sugar basin, clamshell. How many ways are there to describe the female sex organs? Literally hundreds! I have a whole book filled with awesome dirty words and I promise not to repeat the same one twice. But why do we feel it’s necessary to hide behind innuendo and misdirection when all we are really trying to say is vagina, labia, clitoris, and vulva. Shit, I use these words so infrequently that I actually had to look up the correct spelling. Why does our current culture still pretend that woman are Barbie dolls with big boobs, no hips, and a smooth crease…
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Your Seat Cushion May Be Used as a Flotation Device
I’m going to tell you a secret. A super secret that is going to change the way you think for the rest of your life. Ready? Here it is.... There is nothing wrong with your butt. The problem is that so many of us know, intellectually, that there is nothing wrong with our butt, BUT (pun intended) emotionally, we have a major complex about our big ass bumping into tables (& men’s faces) or our super skinny flat ass that looks like a pancake. Let me explain this using a more scientific approach (I can do that because I’m a physicist) and take a look at this from both sides…
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Sensuality is an Art
1. Sensuality is both the Mystery and the Discovery. It’s the power of almost... To almost touch, to almost kiss, to almost finish him off. It’s the power to tease with the promise of complete fulfillment... but only when YOU are ready. 2. You choose Sensuality as much as Sensuality chooses you. 3. Sensuality can’t be overpowered by anger, sadness, joy or fear because it takes these emotions and gives you the ability to feel them throughout every inch of your skin. Consider this phenomenal gift... The feeling of life within your body. Pain or Pleasure doesn’t matter when it means you are really, truly, finally ALIVE. Sensuality is how…
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Build Your Pole Dancing Warmup into a Sensual Ritual
You and I love pole dancing. We love building a strong body and sexy abs. We love the sensual swirls and fabulous flying twirls around a smooth metal pole. And if you want to be an awesome pole dancer, I already know that you practice, practice, practice. But, if you are skipping your warm-up before your in home pole dancing session, you could be damaging your body and missing out on an amazing Sensual Ritual. Playful Plans A warm-up is defined as “the preparation period for a specific workout” and many people find the traditional fitness warm-up boring or monotonous. (I certainly do.) However, the purpose of the wamup, to…
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Embracing Feminine Power
Penis Envy, Pshaw! This week has been a series of lessons about learning to respond to life as a woman, instead of a woman trying to keep up with the men in her life. After over 25 years in the “corporate” world, I’ve finally discovered that I don’t have to prove to my boss that my… ahem… member…. is bigger than his. I always thought that the only way to communicate with the difficult men in my life was to speak to them from their own level. I spent many years perfecting my ability to erase my femininity at work and replace it with a masculine facade that would give…
