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Where Do You Belong?
I’m having one of those weeks where my I-DONT-BELONG monster is running around pointing out all the places that I don’t fit in. Places where I used to fit in. Places where I never fit in. Places I have no hope of fitting in. Places where I don’t even want to fit in, but wish I felt like the people who do fit in. Places where other people might think I fit in, but I actually don’t. Places where I fit in, but only if I’m huddled up in a ball, waving my arms around like antenna, and paint my face with red and yellow polka dots. Places where I…
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Stripper Wisdom, Profuse Swearing, and Lao Tzu
I swear a lot in this post and talk straight up about stripping, so if you don’t like that kind of stuff, then clickty click to google and find something more wholesome. In case you didn’t know already, I’ve got a soft spot for real strippers. And not just because they created the rich and beautiful art form that I love (pole & exotic dance)… But also because a real stripper understands an honest days work, just like you do. Consider exactly what a stripper does… in corporate lingo… A stripper provides immediate value to her customers upfront (by dancing on that huge stage FOR FREE). Then, she uses her…
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6 ways Bette Davis can inspire your pole dancing style and your life
1. Don’t be afraid to act like a bad girl Bette Davis was know for her “willingness to play unsympathetic roles.” Some of her most acclaimed characters were an adulterous murderer, a Jezebel, and a prostitute. Give yourself the time and space to play with the darker parts of your personality. Everybody has them. Don’t bottle your emotions when you feel angry, powerful, or hungry for something naughty. Accept them. Welcome them. You can still feel your authentic nature without responding or acting in a negative manner. Instead cultivate your Femme Fatale, your Huntress, your Evil Queen. There’s nothing wrong with playing in the dirt as long as you define…
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Your Seat Cushion May Be Used as a Flotation Device
I’m going to tell you a secret. A super secret that is going to change the way you think for the rest of your life. Ready? Here it is.... There is nothing wrong with your butt. The problem is that so many of us know, intellectually, that there is nothing wrong with our butt, BUT (pun intended) emotionally, we have a major complex about our big ass bumping into tables (& men’s faces) or our super skinny flat ass that looks like a pancake. Let me explain this using a more scientific approach (I can do that because I’m a physicist) and take a look at this from both sides…
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Embracing Feminine Power
Penis Envy, Pshaw! This week has been a series of lessons about learning to respond to life as a woman, instead of a woman trying to keep up with the men in her life. After over 25 years in the “corporate” world, I’ve finally discovered that I don’t have to prove to my boss that my… ahem… member…. is bigger than his. I always thought that the only way to communicate with the difficult men in my life was to speak to them from their own level. I spent many years perfecting my ability to erase my femininity at work and replace it with a masculine facade that would give…
