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Stripper Wisdom, Profuse Swearing, and Lao Tzu
I swear a lot in this post and talk straight up about stripping, so if you don’t like that kind of stuff, then clickty click to google and find something more wholesome. In case you didn’t know already, I’ve got a soft spot for real strippers. And not just because they created the rich and beautiful art form that I love (pole & exotic dance)… But also because a real stripper understands an honest days work, just like you do. Consider exactly what a stripper does… in corporate lingo… A stripper provides immediate value to her customers upfront (by dancing on that huge stage FOR FREE). Then, she uses her…
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Expose Your Layers
Last week, after a really long day at work, I came home with a problem. I realized that somewhere along the day, I’d let my ToDo list take over. I felt as if I was coated in the grime of working an 8 to 5 job, driving through LA traffic, picking up groceries, feeding the dog, cleaning the house, calling a client, checking my email, and on and on and on. For some reason, I couldn’t figure out how to stop focusing on all my ToDo’s, relax and just be myself. So during my pole improvisation session I decided to accept all of my “doing” layers and wear them like…
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If You Touch my Yoohoo, I’ll Kick Your Cookie
Quiver, mantrap, rosebud, jewel, cake, snatch, artichoke, venus mound, sugar basin, clamshell. How many ways are there to describe the female sex organs? Literally hundreds! I have a whole book filled with awesome dirty words and I promise not to repeat the same one twice. But why do we feel it’s necessary to hide behind innuendo and misdirection when all we are really trying to say is vagina, labia, clitoris, and vulva. Shit, I use these words so infrequently that I actually had to look up the correct spelling. Why does our current culture still pretend that woman are Barbie dolls with big boobs, no hips, and a smooth crease…
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6 ways Bette Davis can inspire your pole dancing style and your life
1. Don’t be afraid to act like a bad girl Bette Davis was know for her “willingness to play unsympathetic roles.” Some of her most acclaimed characters were an adulterous murderer, a Jezebel, and a prostitute. Give yourself the time and space to play with the darker parts of your personality. Everybody has them. Don’t bottle your emotions when you feel angry, powerful, or hungry for something naughty. Accept them. Welcome them. You can still feel your authentic nature without responding or acting in a negative manner. Instead cultivate your Femme Fatale, your Huntress, your Evil Queen. There’s nothing wrong with playing in the dirt as long as you define…
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Your Seat Cushion May Be Used as a Flotation Device
I’m going to tell you a secret. A super secret that is going to change the way you think for the rest of your life. Ready? Here it is.... There is nothing wrong with your butt. The problem is that so many of us know, intellectually, that there is nothing wrong with our butt, BUT (pun intended) emotionally, we have a major complex about our big ass bumping into tables (& men’s faces) or our super skinny flat ass that looks like a pancake. Let me explain this using a more scientific approach (I can do that because I’m a physicist) and take a look at this from both sides…
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Serenade Your Power
The world doesn't know you. It doesn’t know why you love the smell of freshly cut pink roses or why you get frustrated when you lose your car keys before a big meeting. The world doesn’t know anything about you...Except that you have a hidden power. Deep inside your soul. A power that some people want to dominate and some people want to worship. But it’s your choice what you do with that power.
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Skirt The Issue
Have you ever had a problem you simply couldn’t bear to face today? Or maybe even tomorrow? Just the thought of accepting that the problem exists makes you shudder and shake? Don’t beat yourself up because you aren’t dealing with it right this second. Skirt the issue until you are ready to resolve it. And I don’t mean ignore it completely! Tonight, wear a soft skirt and give yourself permission to dance around your problem (and your pole). Ignore the problem (and your pole) when you want to. Or shake it when you need to. Climb it. Kick it. Twirl around and around it. Float toward it as if some…
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Finding Silence
It is not the passage of time but in the passage of NOW. It is not the Daemon’s “Why?” but the Observer’s Koan “Who Am I?” It is not in your lover’s arms but in your mind’s embrace
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Light the Fire of Passionate Action
Passionate action can be an elusive beast. You won’t find it in your goals, in your actions, or in your life until you discover it’s source... inside yourself. Unfortunately, many people block the expression of their own passion because they are afraid that even if they find it, they’ll loose it in the next instant. This fear slowly eats away at any motivation to fulfill their dreams by projecting the illusion of safety within the glass walls of a closed heart. You can feel the truth is out there, but you just can’t touch it. Blocked from sadness and joy by the invisible walls of logic.
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Sensuality is an Art
1. Sensuality is both the Mystery and the Discovery. It’s the power of almost... To almost touch, to almost kiss, to almost finish him off. It’s the power to tease with the promise of complete fulfillment... but only when YOU are ready. 2. You choose Sensuality as much as Sensuality chooses you. 3. Sensuality can’t be overpowered by anger, sadness, joy or fear because it takes these emotions and gives you the ability to feel them throughout every inch of your skin. Consider this phenomenal gift... The feeling of life within your body. Pain or Pleasure doesn’t matter when it means you are really, truly, finally ALIVE. Sensuality is how…
