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Dancing To Your Own Beat
Donna asks: Is it true a dancer never dances with the beat of the music but [uses] the undercurrent of the song [instead]? This particular question is actually a point on contention between many schools of pole dancing. So the answer is “It Depends.” (I always hated that particular answer though) Basically there are 3 different views… First, there’s the idea that you don’t have to listen to the music at all. That you should perform whatever trick you want whenever you feel like it (or in a specified routine) but the music doesn’t have to match or even make sense. I’m just going to throw this one against the…
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Treasure Hunt for BodyStrings
Jennifer writes: Tell me more about the body strings, please! Do you have photos? I don’t know if I’ve ever seen them. BodyStrings have always been love at first sight for me. I originally discovered these beauties while searching for an alternative for fishnet tights. I always though fishnets looked hot, but whenever I wore them for pole work, I just slid right down. Climbing was next to impossible and inverts were seriously scary. My first experiment with Fishnets quickly hit the “Oh Shit” level on the Danger, Will Robinson, Danger meter when I realized that the safety of my head was depending on the friction between the pole &…
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A Change of Heart to Keep My Promises
I have had a change of heart and yet, somehow, NOT a change of direction…. For the past month, I have been organizing my thoughts, analyzing patterns, defining the details and creating worksheets to help explain exactly what I mean by a Pattern Interrupt. But, I constantly felt conflicted about sharing this information. Not because I didn’t want to help people make meaningful, lasting change but because I was afraid it wouldn’t work for anybody but me. I’ve combed through my history many times (and the 20 or so journals that catalog it from as far back as grade school) and I can follow each pattern interrupt through to its…
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Boots, Boas, & Body Strings Oh My!
Halloween will soon be upon us and I find myself rediscovering all the playful costume additions that are ready and waiting for a week of scary naughty nights. Since many of you ladies have asked me exactly what is in my bag-o-tricks, I thought I’d share my absolute favorite pole dancer tested & approved accessories. I first discovered most of these beauties during my monthly forays into the wilds of Hollywood Blvd in downtown Los Angeles. There is a special section just east of Highland (approximately 10 city blocks long) that is filled with tattoo parlous, cheap souvenir shops, tired tourists that wandered too far from Grauman’s Chinese theater, and…
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The Space Below Sadness
This week was hard. This week was bad. This week I had to face people in pain. People that I usually share In’n’Out fries with while shouting obscenities at the 49ers. People that I’ve been more than a little drunk-off-my-ass-and-still-got-home-safe with. People that have made a significant impact in my life. And now, they hurt. Their families hurt. Their reality hurts. Their world hurts. And I don’t know what to do. You see, I’m horrible at watching pain. Forget Hollywood movies and all that namby-pamby bullshit. It’s the real deal I’m talking about here. The kind of pain where they might have to crack open your chest to save you…
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How to Give a Lapdance without Beheading Your Partner PT2
Lapdancing, it’s the mysterious private show that happens [booming announcer voice] BEHIND THE WALL in the VIP strip club. It’s also one of my absolute favorite types of exotic dance. I’m going to share my secret weapons with you that can help you give a tantalizing, mesmerizing, sensual lapdance. But first, I want to demystify a few things. Because giving a great lapdance isn’t as much about a following a set of rules as it is about making the choices that turn you and your partner on. Lapdancing does not require a special chair Lazyboy or a recliner; arms or no arms; chair, couch, or bed. It really doesn’t matter…
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How to Give a Lapdance without Beheading Your Partner PT1
Okay, it’s time for me to make a confession. I LOVE giving a lapdance to a deserving guy. But, I used to have a terrible time finding anyone who was willing to volunteer for the role of lap. Seriously, I couldn’t get a man to smile at me, let alone ask me out for coffee. I would wander around looking at all the happy couples cooing and cuddling with each other and feel isolated, rejected, and confused. I constantly questioned why I was always alone. And usually ended up blaming some random body part. ‘Oh my butt is too big’ (it’s not). Oh my hips are too wide’ (they aren’t).…
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Pole Dancers DO IT Longer
How long can you DO IT? How long can you GO AT IT before your luscious energy starts to wane? How long before you cry out for breath or have to stop and rest? How long does it take before your arms and legs start to shake from exertion? Really? I’m talking about GOING AT IT without resting, without stopping and starting again. Just one long continuous SENSUAL EXPERIENCE? 10 minutes? 20 minutes? An hour? (WOW!) In order to have a truly amazing experience every time, I think it’s essential to really develop your stamina. In fact, I think stamina is just as important as your technique and your transitions.…
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The Secret Lives of Booty Poppers
D.M. asks: “I have watched (on video) a girl doing amazing floorwork while sitting [where she] can make her butt muscles bounce individually and together in short pulses. It looks amazing and [I] wonder how it is done?” First let me put every BUTT at ease. If you have an ass, you can booty pop it. Small, big, round, flat, muscular, or wiggly–It doesn’t matter. As you know, I have strong convictions about the power of your awesome ass. So don’t even think about using it’s size or shape as an excuse. Second, let me say that the way I explain, teach, & perform booty popping may be totally different…
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About Patterns, Lasers, and a lack of Undigested Chunks
Look, the world is changing and you want to change with it. But it’s hard to do that because of all the negative pre-existing patterns that are currently propagating through (and by that I mean having “pattern sex,” multiplying, and thoroughly screwing up) your business & your life. I’m not just talking about the annoying habits you’re trying to break (although we’ll get to those)…. I’m talking about all the hazardous, inconvenient, uncomfortable problems that keep popping up and holding you back from getting exactly what you want out what you do. It sucks when you finally decide to streamline your shipping process, loose weight, or find your soul mate…
