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Naked Inspiration, the Bare Essentials
Today I was reminded of how critical it is to pay attention to all the stuff you actually give a shit about. Otherwise you miss all the phenomenal experiences that life is trying to give you. (because sometimes it’s difficult to figure out what YOU care about when your boss, your peers, and the TV are demanding you do totally different things) So how do you know what is really important and what’s just bullshit? I started my day off by sharing this on Facebook: I’m going to quietly grumble in my cubicle this morning. :S (I couldn’t even manage to spell “grumble”) …and ended it by celebrating an evening…
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The Magic Eight Ball of PoleDancing
The world we live in isn’t black and white, it’s in vivid, breathtaking, awe inspiring color. But sometimes I wish it wasn’t. Sometimes I wish my daily decisions were as simple as.. Yes OR No.. up OR down.. this OR that. When there are too many options, too many possibilities, I get overwhelmed and stuck. Which of the gazillion things that I could choose is the RIGHT one and how do I know for sure? Do I always have to weigh each possibility in disgusting detail? Do I really have to agonize and worry over every damn little thing in my life? As a physicist, I know that mankind has…
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Dancing To Your Own Beat
Donna asks: Is it true a dancer never dances with the beat of the music but [uses] the undercurrent of the song [instead]? This particular question is actually a point on contention between many schools of pole dancing. So the answer is “It Depends.” (I always hated that particular answer though) Basically there are 3 different views… First, there’s the idea that you don’t have to listen to the music at all. That you should perform whatever trick you want whenever you feel like it (or in a specified routine) but the music doesn’t have to match or even make sense. I’m just going to throw this one against the…
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Boots, Boas, & Body Strings Oh My!
Halloween will soon be upon us and I find myself rediscovering all the playful costume additions that are ready and waiting for a week of scary naughty nights. Since many of you ladies have asked me exactly what is in my bag-o-tricks, I thought I’d share my absolute favorite pole dancer tested & approved accessories. I first discovered most of these beauties during my monthly forays into the wilds of Hollywood Blvd in downtown Los Angeles. There is a special section just east of Highland (approximately 10 city blocks long) that is filled with tattoo parlous, cheap souvenir shops, tired tourists that wandered too far from Grauman’s Chinese theater, and…
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How to Give a Lapdance without Beheading Your Partner PT2
Lapdancing, it’s the mysterious private show that happens [booming announcer voice] BEHIND THE WALL in the VIP strip club. It’s also one of my absolute favorite types of exotic dance. I’m going to share my secret weapons with you that can help you give a tantalizing, mesmerizing, sensual lapdance. But first, I want to demystify a few things. Because giving a great lapdance isn’t as much about a following a set of rules as it is about making the choices that turn you and your partner on. Lapdancing does not require a special chair Lazyboy or a recliner; arms or no arms; chair, couch, or bed. It really doesn’t matter…
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Pole Dancers DO IT Longer
How long can you DO IT? How long can you GO AT IT before your luscious energy starts to wane? How long before you cry out for breath or have to stop and rest? How long does it take before your arms and legs start to shake from exertion? Really? I’m talking about GOING AT IT without resting, without stopping and starting again. Just one long continuous SENSUAL EXPERIENCE? 10 minutes? 20 minutes? An hour? (WOW!) In order to have a truly amazing experience every time, I think it’s essential to really develop your stamina. In fact, I think stamina is just as important as your technique and your transitions.…
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The Secret Lives of Booty Poppers
D.M. asks: “I have watched (on video) a girl doing amazing floorwork while sitting [where she] can make her butt muscles bounce individually and together in short pulses. It looks amazing and [I] wonder how it is done?” First let me put every BUTT at ease. If you have an ass, you can booty pop it. Small, big, round, flat, muscular, or wiggly–It doesn’t matter. As you know, I have strong convictions about the power of your awesome ass. So don’t even think about using it’s size or shape as an excuse. Second, let me say that the way I explain, teach, & perform booty popping may be totally different…
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Expose Your Layers
Last week, after a really long day at work, I came home with a problem. I realized that somewhere along the day, I’d let my ToDo list take over. I felt as if I was coated in the grime of working an 8 to 5 job, driving through LA traffic, picking up groceries, feeding the dog, cleaning the house, calling a client, checking my email, and on and on and on. For some reason, I couldn’t figure out how to stop focusing on all my ToDo’s, relax and just be myself. So during my pole improvisation session I decided to accept all of my “doing” layers and wear them like…
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Defeat Your Dragons with Sex Appeal
Some days life just SUCKS. You try your absolute best, but the world keeps piling on the crap, the constraints, and the accidents of fate that simply aren’t going your way. Maybe you wore a short skirt to a party on a windy balcony, maybe you broke your favorite pair of heels on a cobblestone sidewalk, or maybe the sprinkler system came on and fried your laptop right before a huge client meeting. Whatever difficulties you are having, it can feel as if the word “unlucky” is tattooed across your forehead. Everyone knows you are having a stream of bad luck and there is nothing you can do about it…..…
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Don’t Apologize for Pole Dancing
I don’t apologize for pole dancing. I don’t apologize for drinking green tea or choosing to eat sushi instead of a hamburger. I don’t apologize for enjoying R rated movies or doing the splits at the gym. I definitely don’t apologize for enjoying sex as often as I feel like it either. So if the world thinks I’m going to apologize for dancing around my living room with a shiny metal pole while wearing a bikini top and an itty bitty teeny tiny skirt.... Then the world should think again.
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