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All’s Fair in Love and Cellulite?
Kiki wrote: I was wondering about a good solution to hiding cellulite during a performance. I’ve seen pole dancers wear fishnets and even do advanced moves with them (inversions, etc.) I would feel better if I had something on my legs. Any advice? Dear Kiki, I totally feel your pain. I remember when I was 12 and had no idea what cellulite was or that I was doomed to one day look at my legs and literally think “eeewww” But before I show you some easy ways to reduce the look of cellulite I wanted to take a minute and rant about how The Rules have hurt us (women with…
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Naked Inspiration, the Bare Essentials
Today I was reminded of how critical it is to pay attention to all the stuff you actually give a shit about. Otherwise you miss all the phenomenal experiences that life is trying to give you. (because sometimes it’s difficult to figure out what YOU care about when your boss, your peers, and the TV are demanding you do totally different things) So how do you know what is really important and what’s just bullshit? I started my day off by sharing this on Facebook: I’m going to quietly grumble in my cubicle this morning. :S (I couldn’t even manage to spell “grumble”) …and ended it by celebrating an evening…
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Dancing To Your Own Beat
Donna asks: Is it true a dancer never dances with the beat of the music but [uses] the undercurrent of the song [instead]? This particular question is actually a point on contention between many schools of pole dancing. So the answer is “It Depends.” (I always hated that particular answer though) Basically there are 3 different views… First, there’s the idea that you don’t have to listen to the music at all. That you should perform whatever trick you want whenever you feel like it (or in a specified routine) but the music doesn’t have to match or even make sense. I’m just going to throw this one against the…
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Treasure Hunt for BodyStrings
Jennifer writes: Tell me more about the body strings, please! Do you have photos? I don’t know if I’ve ever seen them. BodyStrings have always been love at first sight for me. I originally discovered these beauties while searching for an alternative for fishnet tights. I always though fishnets looked hot, but whenever I wore them for pole work, I just slid right down. Climbing was next to impossible and inverts were seriously scary. My first experiment with Fishnets quickly hit the “Oh Shit” level on the Danger, Will Robinson, Danger meter when I realized that the safety of my head was depending on the friction between the pole &…
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Boots, Boas, & Body Strings Oh My!
Halloween will soon be upon us and I find myself rediscovering all the playful costume additions that are ready and waiting for a week of scary naughty nights. Since many of you ladies have asked me exactly what is in my bag-o-tricks, I thought I’d share my absolute favorite pole dancer tested & approved accessories. I first discovered most of these beauties during my monthly forays into the wilds of Hollywood Blvd in downtown Los Angeles. There is a special section just east of Highland (approximately 10 city blocks long) that is filled with tattoo parlous, cheap souvenir shops, tired tourists that wandered too far from Grauman’s Chinese theater, and…
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How to Give a Lapdance without Beheading Your Partner PT2
Lapdancing, it’s the mysterious private show that happens [booming announcer voice] BEHIND THE WALL in the VIP strip club. It’s also one of my absolute favorite types of exotic dance. I’m going to share my secret weapons with you that can help you give a tantalizing, mesmerizing, sensual lapdance. But first, I want to demystify a few things. Because giving a great lapdance isn’t as much about a following a set of rules as it is about making the choices that turn you and your partner on. Lapdancing does not require a special chair Lazyboy or a recliner; arms or no arms; chair, couch, or bed. It really doesn’t matter…
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How to Give a Lapdance without Beheading Your Partner PT1
Okay, it’s time for me to make a confession. I LOVE giving a lapdance to a deserving guy. But, I used to have a terrible time finding anyone who was willing to volunteer for the role of lap. Seriously, I couldn’t get a man to smile at me, let alone ask me out for coffee. I would wander around looking at all the happy couples cooing and cuddling with each other and feel isolated, rejected, and confused. I constantly questioned why I was always alone. And usually ended up blaming some random body part. ‘Oh my butt is too big’ (it’s not). Oh my hips are too wide’ (they aren’t).…
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The Secret Lives of Booty Poppers
D.M. asks: “I have watched (on video) a girl doing amazing floorwork while sitting [where she] can make her butt muscles bounce individually and together in short pulses. It looks amazing and [I] wonder how it is done?” First let me put every BUTT at ease. If you have an ass, you can booty pop it. Small, big, round, flat, muscular, or wiggly–It doesn’t matter. As you know, I have strong convictions about the power of your awesome ass. So don’t even think about using it’s size or shape as an excuse. Second, let me say that the way I explain, teach, & perform booty popping may be totally different…
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Expose Your Layers
Last week, after a really long day at work, I came home with a problem. I realized that somewhere along the day, I’d let my ToDo list take over. I felt as if I was coated in the grime of working an 8 to 5 job, driving through LA traffic, picking up groceries, feeding the dog, cleaning the house, calling a client, checking my email, and on and on and on. For some reason, I couldn’t figure out how to stop focusing on all my ToDo’s, relax and just be myself. So during my pole improvisation session I decided to accept all of my “doing” layers and wear them like…
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Build Your Pole Dancing Warmup into a Sensual Ritual
You and I love pole dancing. We love building a strong body and sexy abs. We love the sensual swirls and fabulous flying twirls around a smooth metal pole. And if you want to be an awesome pole dancer, I already know that you practice, practice, practice. But, if you are skipping your warm-up before your in home pole dancing session, you could be damaging your body and missing out on an amazing Sensual Ritual. Playful Plans A warm-up is defined as “the preparation period for a specific workout” and many people find the traditional fitness warm-up boring or monotonous. (I certainly do.) However, the purpose of the wamup, to…
